Just typed this up for a friend, and since i had it transcribed, thought i would share it here as well. When the word optional is used in the worksheets, it means that the big book suggests doing this but. The big books way to be rid of resentment pages 63 67 instructions. My serenity is inversely proportional to my expectations. Home read the big book and twelve steps and twelve traditions alcoholics anonymous alcoholics anonymous this is the fourth edition of the big book, the basic text for alcoholics anonymous. The big book of alcoholics anonymous says resentment is the number one offender p. We find out things about ourselves that we have been inclined to beat ourselves up about. Get cozy and expand your home library with a large online selection of books at.
The 4th step is about writing down all our resentments and taking a hard look at them. Big book personal stories part iii they lost nearly. In alcoholics anonymous we learn that resentment is a condition or state of mind whereby one relives some past event, and feels the emotion from that event as if it were happening right now. Steps by the big book step 4 resentments steps by the. I tried to go to aa meetings, but they were full of happy, relatively joyous people and i. Whether youre new to aa, or youre a seasoned veteran, this is the easiest and most useful app to aid in your recovery. To show other alcoholics precisely how we have recovered is the main purpose of this book. According to the writer of that big book chapter, they had held a deep resentment towards someone. If you will ask in prayer everything you want for yourself to be given to them, you will be free.
Its not about being sponsoredits about sponsoring others that is a predictor for recovery. Jun 08, 2010 the resentment prayer is located at the end of a personal story in the back of the big book. If you have a resentment you want to be free of, if you will pray for the person. We asked god to help us show them the same tolerance, pity, and patience that we would cheerfully grant a sick friend. Big book personal stories part iii they lost nearly all. Oct 1, 2016 on page 552 of the big book of alcoholics anonymous their basic text, there is a very helpful suggestion on how to rid yourself of resentments towards a person. I have provided a link in a couple of places on this page for your convenience, so you can get to the search page. The text used to develop the prayers are shown at the end of the prayer in parenthesis. Big book index page aa origin xvxvii aa organization xix, 565 aa program summary 164 acceptance 416420 agnostics 4457 alcoholic xxivxxvii. This echoes language in the big book cautioning us that resentment is the biggest offender. These step study guides and worksheets have been used by thousands of aas. I like that quote about expectations being premeditated resentments. Resentments, bondage, prayer, forgiveness, letting go, and.
The big books way to be rid of resentment pages 63 67. Aa speaker turn our will and our lives over to the care of god new 20. I didnt connect with the big book of alcoholics anonymous until over a. Our resentments are fatal since they block us from conscious contact with god. Though we did not like their symptoms and the way these disturbed us, they, like ourselves, were sick too. Resentment 64, 84, 552 responsibility 564 ridicule, spiritual 68. My resentments my character defects resentment prayer on page. The big book the main 164 pages, prayers, personal stories, and more. Overcoming resentment resentment hurts me most, is a saying often heard in 12step recovery meetings. For them, we hope these pages will prove so convincing that no further authentication will be necessary. A big book index fourth edition compliments of area 60 of western. If you have a resentment you want to be free of, if you will pray.
The 164 and more book, ebook, and web site are all concordances which display passages from the big book alcoholics anonymous, the twelve steps and twelve traditions, and the a. The 24hour plan page 5 and first things first page 32 have helped many of us cope with such a rage, although we didnt see how they possibly could until we actually tried themand got surprisingly good results. If you will ask in prayer for everything you want for yourself to be given to them. Page 552 of the big book if you have resentment you want to be free of, if you will pray for the person or thing that you resent, you will be free. Thats the way my drinking began, as a way to make the pain go away. To overcome this hurdle we first need to understand resentment, and appreciate the damage that carrying. Page 552 of the big book of alcoholics anonymous their basic text, there is a very helpful suggestion on how to rid yourself of resentments. Prayers from the big book of alcoholics anonymous big. Anger and resentment that are allowed to smolder can create such turmoil within an alcoholic that he is driven back to alcohol to soothe his emotional unrest. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves reading. Aug 24, 2014 on page 552 of the big book of alcoholics anonymous their basic text, there is a very helpful suggestion on how to rid yourself of resentments towards a person. Twelve steps to live without resentment hazelden betty ford. It says resentments kills and and cause us to relapse.
If you will ask in prayer for everything you want for yourself to. In the big book of alcoholics anonymous in the chapter how it works it states. Core character defects 4 study from the bottom of page 63 to the end of page 65 and then follow its instructions. There doesnt appear to be any big book stories that talk about turnarounds when describing their step work. Page 552 after all this, it cant be denied that the big book paints a really definite picture of the result of holding resentments. As of december 2009, 30,664,881 copies of the big book have been sold or otherwise distributed source aa gso ny.
Photo by sergio souza on hi everyone the following passage is from the big book of alcoholics anonymous page 552. Clearly, there is no historical references that we can find to anything called turnarounds from the founders or pioneers of aa. Big book awakening 4th step workshop resentment examples and worksheets 122006 columns 14 to download the most current versions of these worksheets go to. The ez big book of alcoholics anonymous was written by a longtime aa member who has been a professional writer all her life. Jul 05, 2010 aa saved my life too, and i am very thankful for that. If you have a resentment you want to be free of, if you will. Sometimes it was remorse and then we were sore at ourselves. Aa big book 4th edition alcoholics anonymous edinburgh. The page 552 prayer to end resentments posted by paulcoholic on 24 august 2014, 6. Resentments seem huge and powerful when theyre in your head, note the authors of a program for you, a hazelden study guide to the big book of alcoholics anonymous. The whytehouse is, i hope, a way to find that special phrase or saying etc. But once theyre down on paper they no longer seem so huge or powerful. Aa, the big book, the 12 steps, family, friends, structure in the.
In fact, on paper a lot of resentments look downright stupid. See origins of aa s 4th step moral inventory it is not mentioned in the big book text at any point. Another one that does this for me, and might be useful to some of you, is this. New listing alcoholics anonymous big book 2nd edition, 2nd printing 1955. If you have a resentment you want to be free of, if you will pray for the person or the thing that you resent, you will be free. Sorting and rendering passages in the proprietary format of the 164 and more concordance does not in any way imply affiliation with or endorsement by either alcoholics. Learning the process of overcoming resentment literally saves the lives of people who are afflicted with the disease of alcoholism. Before aa resentment and fear ran my life and i didnt even know it. Sponsored ad this sponsor paid to have this advertisement placed in this section. Big book personal stories part iii alcoholics anonymous. Picture dirty dishes piled up in the sink, overflowing laundry baskets, piles of old mail, dirty carpet, dust on the ceiling fan blades, burnt out light bulbs in.
Overcoming resentment is essential in order to achieve true peace of mind and happiness. Expectations are premeditated resentments soberrecovery. The big book takes a look at how resentment affects alcoholics, saying on page 46, resentment destroys more alcoholics than anything else. Resentment inventory prompt sheet here is a list of people, institutions and principles that may be helpful in your resentment inventory. Take all 12 steps in just 4 hours download this aa big book step guide and work book. Page 552, 4th edition someone was having a problem with resentment in the meeting this morning in stepchat, and i told them to read this as i was told to and it helped me. Anger in big book alcoholics anonymous, 12 steps and 12. I mentioned on my recent radio show the healing power of prayer that i would post the big book s resentment prayer. The big book describes this step as a personal housecleaning.
If you have a resentment you want to be free of 3rd edition page 552, 4th edition page 552. May 12, 2016 the resentment prayer i found that in compiling my fourth step resentment list, the best way to cope with resentments were to first pray for and forgive those on my list. The free version features the full text of the big book, prayers, personal stories, podcasts, meeting finder, and more. After all this, it cant be denied that the big book paints a really definite picture of the result of holding resentments. On page 552 of the big book of alcoholics anonymous their basic text, there is a very helpful suggestion on how to rid yourself of resentments towards a person. It is my hope that you will find this site useful to you and our friends of bill w. The big book explains that we must make a list that includes all our resentments we have and have ever had, an account of sexual conduct and our fears. The higher my expectations of other people are, the lower is my serenity.
The usual outcome was that people continued to wrong us and we stayed sore. They prove to almost anyones satisfaction that its never too late to try alcoholics anonymous. If you have resentment you want to be free of, if you will pray for the person or thing that you resent, you will. The twelve step prayers were created using the text of the big book of alcoholics anonymous. These instructions are for the below prayer big book, freedom from bondage, p. He said, in effect if you have a resentment you want to be free of, if you will pray for the person or the thing.
The resentment prayer i found that in compiling my fourth step resentment list, the best way to cope with resentments were to first pray for and forgive those on my list. Twelve steps to live without resentment hazelden betty. All big book quotes are from first edition the following 3 users say thank you to boleo for this useful post. Step four prayer freedom from resentment step 4 of the. My hope is that these prayers will provide a framework for you to develop your own or expand on the wording below. Oct 09, 2012 i mentioned on my recent radio show the healing power of prayer that i would post the big books resentment prayer.
Since the first edition appeared, in 1939, it has helped millions of men and women recover from alcoholism. We, of alcoholics anonymous, are more than one hundred men and women who have recovered from a seemingly hopeless state of mind and body. The story is titled freedom from bondage i have the 3rd edition of the aa big book. Each mistake gets me closer to my hp which is where i want to be. For the serious student of the aa big book, what follows are some recommendations from the author of this study guide in the approach to take when utilizing this supplemental material. Within 3 years, the ebook sold over 15,000 copies worldwide without any marketing. Dealing with resentment, the number one offender duffy.
First published in 2010 as a paperback, the ez big book of alcoholics anonymous was released as an ebook shortly afterward. The big book s way to be rid of resentment pages 63 67 instructions. So i figured i would post it here so i have it handy. If you have a resentment you want to be free of, if you will pray for the person or the thing that. When i remember this, i can see ive never had it so good. He said, in effect if you have a resentment you want to be free of, if you will pray for the person or the thing that you resent, you will be free. The page 552 prayer to end resentments sober catholic. Aug 26, 2019 also in alcoholics anonymous on page 552, from a members story. Take your inspiration with you each day with the aa resentment verse card. A resentment is always about what someone or something has done to us. Thank you god for your help and strength with this resentment.
Step four prayer freedom from resentment step 4 of the 12. The page 552 prayer to end resentments lent, prayers. Core character defects 4 study from the bottom of page 63 to the end of page 65 and. Having a sponsor who helps me work the steps, and getting rid of my resentments is an ongoing process but ive made huge progress. If you have a resentment you want to be free of, if you pray for the person or the thing you resent, you will be free. Sometimes, it isnt long resentment we must deal with, but a sudden, consuming rage. Mar 16, 20 in dealing with resentments, we set them on paper. If you will ask in prayer for everything you want for yourself to be given to them, you will be free. Sorting and rendering passages in the proprietary format of the 164 and more concordance does not in any way imply affiliation with or endorsement by either alcoholics anonymous. If you have a resentment you want to be free of, if you will pray for the person or thing that you resent, you will be free. To conclude that others were wrong was as far as most of us ever got.
Reprinted from alcoholics anonymous, page 420, with permission of a. Breaking down step four of aa alcoholics anonymous jason. The resentment prayer is located at the end of a personal story in the back of the big book. Resentment in big book alcoholics anonymous, 12 steps and. The step 4 prayer from how it works page 66 of the big book, alcoholics anonymous. Read read of step 4 resentments in the big book the final 4 paragraphs, pp. Page 67 of the book, alcoholics anonymous, states, resentment is the number one offender. Oct 1, 2016 on page 552 of the big book of alcoholics anonymous their basic text, there is a very helpful suggestion on how to rid yourself of resentments. Read the big book, page 67, last paragraph through first paragraph on page 68. Recoveryshop has many 12 step recovery programs verse cards including quotes from alcoholics anonymous, narcotics anonymous, and many more. Resentment in big book alcoholics anonymous, 12 steps and 12. Struggling with this resentment, or maybe just super. It is the basic text of the fellowship of alcoholics anonymous, and has helped large numbers of alcoholic men and women, young and old, recover. A fourth study guides are distilled right out of the big book of alcoholics anonymous.
I can watch my serenity level rise when i discard my expectations. But then my rights try to move in, and they, too, can force my serenity level down. Downloadable group workbook companion to the 12 steps of alcoholics anonymous aa, for adults who desire information on alcoholism and addiction recovery. After building our resentment table the big book tells us we are to look at them from another angle. Read the book alcoholics anonymous from the frontispiece through the end of chapter 11 a vision for you pg 164. Alcoholics anonymous, page 64 aside from confusion, the second obstacle some of us have encountered at step four has been in the shortsighted belief we had no resentments. Alcoholics anonymous recovery show business books livros book wilderness survival libri. Page 552, 4th edition someone was having a problem with resentment in the meeting this morning in stepchat, and i told them to read this as i. Resentment is really a choice weve decided, on some level, or allowed ourselves to stay angry. This is the fourth edition of the big book, the basic text for alcoholics anonymous. It explains how to get rid of the resentment on further pages.
Thought to ponder expectations are premeditated resentments. Bitter in big book alcoholics anonymous, 12 steps and 12. Aa history what does the bigbook say about resentment. There is comfort in knowing you arent alone, that what youre feeling isnt unusual, and that there is a solution. Did you ever think about holding on to a rope thats connected between you and your hp, and each and every time you make a mistake, you tie a knot and hang on the rope gets shorter. This card features a quote from the big book free from bondage pg. Aa taught me to name my resentments and fears and to own these emotions as things i could overcome and unpack. The big book gives us another powerful example of how to use prayer to soften our heart toward the people we resent. Is it possible that the more we have them, the more we are moving toward our next drink, since we have used alcohol before to help us deal with them. Find all uses of this word in the big book alcoholics anonymous and the twelve steps and twelve traditions of a.
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